Most happy couples will credit a few things to how they arrived to their own version of bliss. Whether it’s an affection for the same movies or a thirst to see the world and its cultures, everyone has a variety of values that bring them together. For some, their faith is at the center of their life, and often, at the forefront of each and every relationship they have. For those singles, seeking a Christian dating site is a no-brainer, especially if they want someone as dedicated to church-going as they are. “Christian sites incorporate religion, faith, and beliefs into their platforms to help users find quality, like-minded partners. Rather than focus on things that are secular, or non-religious, such as premarital sex, they help members make deeper connections with one another so they can ultimately build a God-centered relationship,” explains executive editor and founder of CupidsPulse, Lori Bizzoco.
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If you want to cater your matches toward your Christian belief system, get started with these recommended destinations by experts:
Of all of the faith-based dating destinations, Bizzoco recommends this as the leader of the pack. With 16 million users, the purpose of Christian Mingle is straightforward and user-friendly, providing an easy way to seek those who share the values you do. “Most of its members are in their 30s and 40s and may not be so tech savvy, so this makes it easier on them to navigate,” she explains. In addition to what you might expect from a religion-focused site, Bizzoco also explains Christian Mingle goes a step above, and makes answering tough-hitting questions fun. Through a variety of quizzes and games, the site gets to the heart of how you feel about family, commitment and other lifestyle choices that can impact or shape a possible romantic relationship. Though they have both a website and app, younger generations might enjoy the app more, since it features the familiar swiping system that Tinder, Hinge, Bumble or others use. For Christian singles who identify as part of the LGBTQ community, this app also welcomes you, believing love is love.
When you’re on this site—or really, any for the matter—Bizzoco recommends taking it slow and trying not to judge someone to harshly on first impressions. After all, you should love thy neighbor—not pass assumptions without giving them a chance to woo you.
Though not only for Christians, Love and Seek could be a less intensive way to find a partner who shares your same dedication to God. Because the sign-up process is easy-peasy and allows you to get right to searching for the love of your life, Bizzoco says people are less intimidated to join. For those religious singles who are wary of meeting people off the internet, the site allows users to record video interactions, giving a glimpse into someone’s personality and hear their voice, and thus resting their fears. While not widely popular, Love and Seek also takes proactive measures to keep catfishers away, only showing profiles that have pictures and giving preference to those members who are recently active in search results. In your profile, you can choose what religion you affiliate with and narrow your focus on only those who are a match. Though this important, it probably goes without saying you’ll also want to ensure you upload current, attractive photos that demonstrate your personality, too. Christian People Meet is also owned by Love and Seek, and offers many of the same features, but their app is among the highest rated in this sector.
If you are ready to try out Christian dating, but you don’t want to invest money just yet, consider this destination. Dating expert, coach, speaker and author Anza Goodbar explains their intake form is easy to navigate and is mostly pull down menu to choose from. This is helpful if you’d like to meet someone who share your denomination preference—from Methodist to Catholic—and if you want someone who is a regular or not at church. “It is easy to create a short essay with a headline to help find a match. You can be up and going in less than ten minutes,” she explains.
The only downfall for some people is that listing your church name is required. This could feel like a security risk or unnecessary information, and many users have requested this to be an optional field. Though it isn’t recommended to be dishonest, you can add a fake church and let your match know that until you’re ready, you won’t list where you actually visit every Sunday.
Ultimately, you’re seeking a partner to walk down the aisle with. And more than that, you want someone who will sit next to you in the pew, sharing your love in God and community. Appropriately named you want a big love who matches your value system, and BigChurch might be the place you’ll find it. Though it isn’t as big as Christian Mingle, it’s a trusted spot for many religious bachelors and bachelorettes, mainly due to their commitment to security. Bizzoco explains they offer a service called ID Confirmation, which is used to verify the identity of its users through various digital mediums. This gives many matches peace of mind when they’re filling out their profiles, messaging and interacting with one another, since they know they can trust the person on the other end. There is a cost associated, around $30 a month, but it could be worth the investment if you’re ready for the real thing.
No matter if you’re looking for the love of your life or a friend who shares your belief system, this could be a great place to start your search online. Here, you’ll fill out a minimal questionnaire, and then start browsing through profiles. This site makes a conscious effort to ensure everyone who signs up is on the same page, as they require you to pick between ‘pen pals’ or ‘marriage-minded’ when you describe your intent of the site. This is helpful so no one is blindsided or hurt during the getting-to-know-you process. It isn’t free though: your 7-day trial period allows you to message, but not share contact information, and then you’ll need to pay $25 a month to continue your digital dating.
As the household leader of the pack in terms of dating websites, this 20-something year old company is renowned for its ability to foster long-lasting, meaningful relationships. While sure, Match.com welcomes anyone and everyone, Goodbar says there is a large Christian sector, especially since many people rate their religious beliefs high on their must-have list of qualities in a mate. If you mutual faith is non-negotiable for you, you should update your setting from the start. That way, you’ll be paired with people who are on your same page. “Their dashboard makes it easy to assess potential matches by giving a compatibility percentage. It’s easy to see common interests and make them a favorite,” she explains. Though it is an investment with a required membership to send messages, for those who are ready to move to the next romantic stage of their life, the subscription fee is worth the cost. They also have trusted security measures, giving you the option to create a fake phone number to text or call with a match before giving out your real one.
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Though eHarmony doesn’t come right out and say they are for Christians, Goodbar says it is the most extensive site designed for this demographic. In fact, most people who join eHarmony identify as Christians, and more so, are looking for not only a boyfriend or a girlfriend, but a husband or wife. When you first join, you’ll need to set aside time to fill out a lengthy questionnaire, but once you’re finished, you’ll be delivered hand-picked matches every day. If you note how important your faith is, you’ll only be paired with people who also feel similarly. However, it’s important to note if you identify as LGBTQ, eHarmony doesn’t provide same sex matches, but does offer a different site for those who are. Goodbar says to be mindful of setting your preferences too strict, since you could end up with very few pairings. “You have to weigh what is really important to you. They have a ‘what if’ feature that can open up additional potential matches for you,” she explains. “eHarmony it is a well thought-out process that funnels seekers through systematic communication to build a foundation of compatibility. The attraction is based on mutual interests and commonality, not on physical appearance which can make for a higher success rate than other sites.”
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