Sometimes, you are looking for that special someone to bring home to your parents. Someone you can see yourself in a long term relationship with: marriage, kids, a mortgage, eternity. Other times you want the exact opposite: something fun, flirty, consensual, and straight-up sexy.
It is true, there is a period in our lives (sometimes several periods) where all we want to do is “sow your wild oats” (ask your grandpa). This is generally a good thing as it helps us get very clear about our own views on intimacy, like what turns us on, what turns us off, and what we need to make relationships more eternal (if that’s even the end goal, of course). That means, you can get exactly what you want when you want it — no games, no guesswork, just straight hookups.
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The good news is that wonders of technology — the best hookup apps and sites, especially — have brought to our doorstep all manner of kink and debauchery that we have an appetite for, and a means of consensually connecting with all the like-minded kinky and debaucherous people that we have the time for.
With so many options out there, you want to make sure that whatever you’re investing in — both time and money — is worth it. So, this begs the question: Do hookup apps really work? It depends on what you’re looking for. If you’re a college student desperate for one night of fun, a couple looking to bring someone else into the bedroom, someone older hoping to tap into their sexual side, or simply on the hunt for the casual, no-strings-attached night of sex, then you’ll find what you’re looking for once you download the right hookup app.
The hardest part is knowing exactly which one is worth the download, so that’s why we’ve rounded up a list of the best hookup apps right now as determined by the dating and relationship experts at Datezie. But first, here’s everything to consider when choosing the best hookup app for you and your lifestyle.
What to consider when choosing the best hookup app…
Your personal interests
In this case interest doesn’t just mean your kinks, fetishes and sexual proclivities, but also whether you are looking for a straight hookup app, porntastic entertainment or something in between. The various hookup sites have differing degrees of each, but most fall somewhere in between. Like, sometimes you want to have that burger you always order, but sometimes you want to see the entire menu, or to try a different restaurant, or eat at several restaurants at one time. Ok we’ll stop now, you get it.
Effort level and noise
There are some hookup apps that cater to a simple swipe, but there are others that take more time and engagement to get the experience you want. If you have very specific desires that are a little off the main script, then we recommend an app that caters to your interest and to potentially a higher level of engagement to meet like-minded people. If you are making a volume play, then the swipey apps may be your deal.
You will also discover that some hookup sites and apps are noisy with notifications. This may or may not be your style, but it is something to consider beforehand. There’s some wiggle room here, though: Even if the app has a tendency to flood your phone with notifications, you can alter your phone’s settings to limit notifications or turn them off completely.
Catfishing and scams are unfortunately part of this online dating world. You should go in with your head up and eyes wide open (so eventually, you can go eyes wide shut?), making sure that the people you are chatting with are exactly who they claim to be. If you feel like you are particularly vulnerable, read more about the relative safety of the apps we review and make a decision that is right for you. We Datezie editors want you to have fun, but above all, we want you to be safe.
Cost is of course a consideration, and you should operate within your budget. Many of the best hookup apps are completely free to download, but require you to pay for most features. More often than not, you have to pay the big bucks to really play … or to at least keep the conversation going.
We do see this category as existing between dating and entertainment and to some degree, education. We don’t mean you are going to get a Masters degree in BDSM, but we mean that you have a great opportunity to learn more about a community and a lifestyle that you have an affinity for, which can be valuable in expanding your sexual horizons and improving your life. All this to say, don’t miss out on an opportunity because of cost, experiment with a few sites and discover which (if any) are right for you.
Now that you have a better idea of what you’re looking for, keep reading to learn more about the best hookup apps — some for curious couples, thirsty singles and everything in between — chosen by the experts.
Best Hookup App for Couples: AdultFriendFinder
|Massive and active user base (25 million visits monthly, mostly from the US), comprised of singles, couples, couples in open relationships and just about everyone else||Lot’s of ways to interact including webcams, blogs and profiles.||Free Membership, Enhanced: 1-3 Months: $20/Mth, 12 Months: $15/month
Adultfriendfinder is one of the largest and best known hookup and adult entertainment services in the world, and has features that will appeal to casual and active users alike.
The site has some of the familiar features of a dating site but veers quickly off into a world that is decidedly more adult, with numerous ways to interact with the community, ranging from chat rooms to blogs, live streaming and more. There is also a pretty comprehensive sex advice and education section for those who get off on learning (sorry).
Create personal hotlists of your favorite members and browse the site casually or dive right in to some of the more interactive features, many of which are decidedly gamified with a points system. You can join groups that cater to your specific interests, engage in photo contests, complete surveys that help you explore your interests, post suggestive videos and even engage with live web-cams. Oh yes, you can even find someone to hookup with, should that be your main modus operandi, via running pre-set searches based on kink or location or via browsing sections of the site that showcase top rated user profiles and photos.
Unpaid members will have a difficult time initiating contact with other members and maximizing their enjoyment of the site, so if you are going to join a paid membership is highly recommended
Like sister site XMatch, AFF has the “Connexion” feature that makes it possible for users to connect with models via a sort for enhanced video sexting.
Read our full AdultFriendFinder Review
Best Hookup App for Cyber Sex: BeNaughty
|Lively community with a diverse user base interested in just about everything you can imagine||Group and 1 on 1 chats, “hot or not” galleries and more. Engage with other users safely with a three-tiered system which gives you control over who engages with you||7 Day Free Trial $0, 1 Month $17.85 3 Months $9.99 /Month, 6 Month $7.85/Month
BeNaughty feels like a normal dating site with strong orientation towards casual sex and hooking up. Like Adult Friend Finder, it caters to a varied audience of singles and couples looking for a whole host of arrangements. Search users in a variety of ways, including physical attributes and through “hot or not” style galleries.
BeNaughty has a fairly robust activity dashboard that displays how you’ve engaged with users and how other users have engaged with you (profile views, winks, friend requests, etc.) it also shows nearby matches, and with its emphasis on mobile access, you can check in and plan your next encounter from anywhere.
BeNaughty has a growing user base in over 70 countries, with the largest membership base being in the U.S. While you can meet up with other users IRL most users tend to keep things online with video chats, photo sharing, and X-rated conversations. You’ll certainly get more out of the paid version (think: real-time chats, flirty photos and so on), it should be noted that women can contact men for free (but they still have to pay for a membership at one point or another).
“Flirtcast” tool allows you to mass message members twice daily. Use this tool wisely, not creepily.
Read our full BeNaughty Review
Best Hookup App for Men: Flirt.com
|A fun, flirty app targeting singles, with a healthy women to men ratio||Clean simple layout with a good mobile app. Feels a little like Tinder||Free for basic, premium: 1 Month $34.99, 3 Months $59.96, 6 Months $95.94|
Flirt is a simple and fun hookup app (and site) with Tinder like features, plenty of cool chat options and free access for women, making the odds a little better for the hookup oriented single guys out there (ie. all single men).
Paid features include access to a plethora of chat rooms catering to different interests, “Flirtcasts” which allow users to message a large group of members (make your message count!) and covert viewing of profiles, so that your curiosity doesn’t drum up unwanted interest from the bearded lady or that guy that indicated “collecting Barbie heads” as a hobby.
Keep in mind that Flirt isn’t known to have great security measures in place to avoid catfishing or questionable matches. You can, though, reach out to the Flirt team and get trusted status for your account, basically to prove to others that you are the real deal.
“Naughty Mode” allows members to view each others naughty pictures.
Read our full Flirt.com Review
Best Hookup App If You’re New to Casual Sex: Fling.com
|Large user base of active and engaged people looking for actual and online hookups and to explore fantasies. International with over 50% from the U.S.||A dynamic homepage with a scrolling image gallery like a stock market ticker, with options to add users directly. Engage using video chat, live web cams, or by browsing member photos.||Free basic account with Silver ($24.95 for 1 month, $99.95 for 12 months) and Gold ($34.95 for 1 month, $119.95 for 18 months) options|
No one would claim that Fling.com is a quiet corner of the internet. When you engage with this site you are right in the thick of things, for better or for worse. Lots of ways to immediately engage with other users along with notifications that help you choose your path through the site. Images scroll across the screen ticker-style and are organized into a variety of topics/site areas, including Members on Video Chat, Featured Members, Popular Member Photos, Popular Member Videos, Premium Live Cams, Who’s Viewed Me and My Friends.
Users can customize their own experience by turning off sexually explicit content by entering a safe mode, or go in to discreet mode to only engage with other users and friends. You can even go so far as to temporarily deactivating your profile if you need a time out.
In the spirit of Joe Namath calling a Jets super bowl win or JFK predicting a moon landing by the end of the 60’s, Fling.com has bold three month “get laid” guarantee.
Best X-Rated, Porn-Tastic Hookup App: XMatch
|A kinky, engaged crowd with lots of diverse interests||Users post pictures and videos actively, live webcams that other users rate or comment on||Free for a basic account, 1 Month $20.00, 3 Months $20.00/ month, 12 Months $15/ month|
Built more like an adult site than a dating site, a few seconds on XMatch lets you understand what you are not in Kansas anymore. Risque images adorn the homepage and this sexually forward dating site/social network site encourages active video and image contributions from its user base.
Users have various search options to find matches on the site including perusing Kink Search, Who’s Online, Members Near Me, New Matches, VIP Members and Advanced Search.
Want to keep things virtual? Try out the “Live Action” feature, which lets you literally have virtual sex with anyone, any time. And if you’re on the kinkier side (or at the very least, interested in exploring it), XMatch identifies 31 different kinks with hundreds of fetishes, everything from dirty talk to bondage.
“Connexion” is a feature that allows users to connect digitally with models via video sexting. You can even go so far as to integrate the service with paired sex toys so you can send each other sensations. Technology!
Read our full XMatch Review
Tips on How to Get the Most Out of Hookup Apps
So, you’ve downloaded an app (or two) … now what? To take your online relationships to the bedroom, consider these tips and tricks from dating experts.
Make your profile as complete as possible.
We get it: You may be tempted to dive in headfirst and get right to work, but taking the extra time to flesh out your profile really goes a long way. Even if you’re just looking for a one-night-stand, it pays to put the effort into adding good pictures (a mix of face and full-body shots), accurate details about age, sex and location, and even a video, if using a hookup app like Flirt.com.
Know what you want and go for it.
Maybe you just want to keep your flirting virtual. Maybe you want to find someone to distract your mind (and heart) from a former love. Or maybe you just want full-on, wild sex with a stranger nearby. Before you initiate any conversations on the app, consider what you’re after and then make it clear to anyone you connect with from the very start.
Keep your eyes peeled at all times.
All the while, make sure you are still careful and protect your identity from potential scammers. Some users on apps, like XMatch, have been scammed in the past — or at least have shared those claims in the reviews — so it’s a possibility that it could happen to you. That said, never give your credit card information or identification numbers to anyone on any hookup app. Look out for any red flags — say, they won’t share their social media profile with you or the information they reveal in their messages doesn’t align with their profile — and proceed with caution when you meet up IRL for the first time.
Stick to your comfort levels.
Especially if you’re a first-timer, it may be jarring when someone — mind you, a complete stranger — sends a below-the-belt picture, no questions asked. Or skips the small talk and goes straight to, well, bedroom talk. Think about what you’re comfortable with ahead of time and then go at your own speed. You’ll find plenty of people on hookup apps that also want to take it slow (It’s a crazy world out there!), so this won’t hurt your chances of getting laid — it may even help you weed out any of the catfishers or scammers before you’re in too deep.
Let go and have fun.
This may seem like a given, but hookup apps are the place to let your freak flag fly. Let go of the stress that dating often brings and just have a good time getting to know people (like, really get to know) in your area. Try not to judge yourself for what you do or don’t do. Who knows, along the way you may even discover something new about yourself.