Considering porn is becoming more and more socially acceptable, as countless sex therapist and experts recommend it for couples and singles exploring their sexuality, it makes sense why dating sites that mimic porn would be popping up. While XMatch isn’t new—it’s been around since 1996—this Australian company is one of the few that’s primarily video based. This allows users anywhere to broadcast themselves in all sorts of sexual situations by themselves or with their partners, inviting voyeurism at its finest. Though we believe enjoying sex in all mediums is an important part of health and happiness, it’s worth mentioning that XMatch doesn’t always receive the raves reviews from users who want to connect with someone in person for a fling, so try to think of this site as a place to watch and masturbate, rather than date, per se. If that seems more up your alley than meeting up for a one-night stand, it could be an avenue that’s fit for your interests and intrigue. Here, what you need to know about this NSFW website and how to get plugged in and turned on ASAP:
How to Sign Up to Xmatch
Make sure you have privacy—and ahem, some alone time—since once you open up this Pandora’s box of x-rated material, you will find it difficult to focus on anything else. Joining only takes a hot second, since you merely have to fill out basic info: who you are, what you’re looking for, your country, state, zip code and birthday. It’s important to note that couples can join together if they’re looking for a foray into the swinger lifestyle, making for an interesting differentiator for XMatch. Then, you’ll be prompted to include an email and password, before you finish up adding in your body type, orientation, race, marital status, and as with all Friend Finder-esque websites, your headline. Think of this as what will draw users in, much like writing utilities headlines for clicks—whether you like booty play or threesomes, here’s where you broadcast it.
That’s it! From here, you can browse through profiles and search who is online and in your area, but it’s important to note you can’t interact with anyone or see full images or videos until you upgrade to a membership. This can be a big bummer for those who aren’t sure if they’re ready for the commitment, but with a variety of price points, based on interactions and use, you might find something that’s reasonable with your budget. Of course, you can also cancel at anytime.
What to Expect With XMatch
Curiosity gets the best of the cat—and of your libdio—when you’re considering joining XMatch. As with any adult-focused websites, there are major benefits to being a member, as well as some downfalls. Here, an idea of what to expect when you join this steamy dot com.
Pro: You can just observe.
With an upgraded membership, you can watch endless hours of live web cams on XMatch. This allows you to choose what you want to experience, without participating much yourself. The site itself is made for voyeurs who can search by ‘New Matches’, ‘Members Near Me’, ‘Who’s Online’ and ‘VIP’, if you pay the cost. With this, you can quite literally enjoy someone masturbating, a couple having sex with one another on camera, oral sex between two people or simulated with a dildo, and plenty of other erotic acts. We find this to be a benefit if you are looking for something different than porn to satisfy yourself, without having to reveal personal information—or ahem, your face.
Pro: You can have virtual sex. Literally.
So, you’re more of a hands-on person? Well, you’re in luck then. With XMatch, you can go the complete opposite way of watching idling and dive right in. This is called ‘Live Action’ where you can not only watch model cams, live member cams and other videos, but create your own, in real time. This is a unique part of XMatch, as compared to their competitors or sister sites, and something that makes the experience all-encompassing. For those who are willing to take it a step further, you can pay for the ‘Connexion’ feature that requires you to purchase a sex toy, download a Flash player and then connect the toy to your computer. You can think choose a model, and she will sync—in motion—with you, so you feel her movement and she feels yours. It’s sort of like having sex—and will definitely get your rocks off.
Pro: All kinks are welcome.
In fact, 31 types! Though there are hundreds under the umbrella of fetishes, XMatch recognizes that not everyone falls under the one-fantasy-fits all category, and allows users to search and match with others who share their interests. These include, but are not limited to, bondages, dirty talk, spanking, multiple-partners and others. You can rate how important this particular act or desire is to you—from ‘can’t live without i’t to ‘I’m curious about this.’ For those who aren’t quite sure about interacting with someone in real life based on their kink, this can be a safe and welcomed place to practice.
Con: You don’t have to interact.
Yep, that’s right: it’s a pro and a con. The ability to sit back, watch and enjoy is a benefit, sure, but it’s also one that could be frustrating for those members who don’t want to just sit behind a computer screen. XMatch isn’t given the a five-star seal of approval for creating in-person matches, and that’s a bummer for people who want in-person, no-strings-attached, sex. If you’re constantly broadcasting yourself and your body, but only receiving video and text chats in exchange, you might quickly bore of the site.
Con: You have to pay—and it is confusing.
No matter what you want to do on XMatch, it’s going to cost you. And sadly, it’s not always easy to understand exactly what you’re paying and how long you’ll be forking over the cash. When we joined, we found the navigation of the site confusing, making us wary to give our credit card without understanding exactly what we were receiving in return. Not everyone has an unlimited budget for digital romps, and XMatch doesn’t provide too compelling of a reason to fork over the change.
Con: It feels eerily familiar.
Because XMatch is part of the Adult Friend Finder and Friend Finder X communities, you will see a lot of the same members across all three domains. (And others, considering the Australian company owns quite a few.) If you’re already part of these higher-rated hookup sites, we suggest thinking twice before joining XMatch. It’s one of the lowest rated in its category, and you could find the ability to meet up in person with another site.
What Users Are Saying
Well, it’s not all pretty—but there are some silver linings. Here, real users share their input about experiencing XMatch and all of its bells-and-whistles, whips-and-chains:
Tips for Success on XMatch
If you want to give XMatch a shot, there are a few ways you can set yourself up for better matches and messages, as well as video chats that really get you going. Here, a few to put into practice:
This is a no-brainer, no matter what dating or hookup site you join. If you merely wait for people to come to you or to engage in a video chat, you’ll only find scammer and not true interactions of value. Take time to set up your profile, be mindful of what you’re really looking for and put yourself out there. Though you might not receive dazzling, x-rated responses right away, within time, you could be vibing with someone sexy.
Protect your identity.
Because some of the reviews of XMatch include that the site feels scammy, don’t ever give away personal information—like your credit card or identification numbers—to anyone you don’t know. Though it is unlikely this will happen, it’s always better to air on the side of caution when dealing with a site that isn’t as trusted as others in the market. Once you meet someone in person and start seeing them, you can decide what information is appropriate to share, but never post this online or in a message or video chat.
Let go of your inhibitions.
Hey, it’s called XMatch for a reason. It’s not meant for flirting that could lead to a relationship or matching based on what ice cream flavors you have in common. The point is to really release your boundaries, inhibitions and have fun. Otherwise, what’s the point? Try not to judge yourself, others, or the process, and follow wherever your fantasties take you.