While there are plenty of online dating strategies you should follow, here’s one that you absolutely, no matter what, should never, ever mimic. Imagine this if you will: you go out on a date with a promising match. It’s fine, sure, but no sparks flew and you left the evening feeling lackluster and bummed. It happens to the best of us — but most of the time, once the niceties are shared at the end, it’s done. Not for one Kimberley Latham-Hawkesford, a UK-based woman who met a man who thought it best to provide a detailed, wide-ranging, post-date critique.
Keyword here? Critique. Three months after their one-and-only date, he sent her a list of improvements should could make — from her looks to her personality — that would make her a more suitable potential girlfriend. Sure, you probably have thought a handful of these before, but you’ve kept ‘em to yourself, right? While your mom praised honesty, she likely also encouraged kindness and respect, neither of which this 20-something dater exercised.
Like many dramatic non-love stories, the evening started with drinks and quickly led to bites nearby, as the banter was picking up. However, things turned sour quickly when he inquired about her interest in plastic surgery — and made a suggestion of where she should shop for the next date’s outfit. Obviously losing interest, she offered to pay for dinner and was met with a smartphone in her face, displaying he had more than enough to cover the meal.
Cringing yet? (We can’t stop.)
She didn’t think she’d hear from him again until out of the blue, he sent her a long list of non-constructive criticisms, including:
‘If you lost some weight you would look incredible. Maybe about a stone or so.”
“You are very pale. I know you aren’t a fan of the sun but a bit of fake tan won’t hurt.”
“You need to dye your hair a normal colour and add extensions. Longer hair is much more attractive.”
“Your lips have gone down so you should think of getting more filler.’”
“You just seemed a bit stuck up.”
“Sort your personality out.”
He was also upset that she takes things slow (as in, didn’t bang on date number one) and that he didn’t get a kiss goodnight which ‘messed with his ego.’
Promptly, she took a screenshot and shared this exchange online — and was met with lots of surprise at the audacity of this dude. To sign off his unwelcome message, he said “If you take these on board I might consider another date. I will give you a month and get back in touch to see if this made a difference.”
Considering how out-of-line this date was, we bet he’ll be waiting a lot longer than that for another date. Let this be a reminder of that ole’ fashioned Golden Rule: if you wouldn’t want someone to point out everything they don’t love about you, don’t give them a list of negativity either.
We just hope karma works its magic with this Tinder wacko.